I have been working as a doula for almost five years now. In that time, I have searched my soul for my “thing”, the one thing that makes me and my doula services unique. It has taken a lot of hard work, soul searching and frankly, trying to force myself to work with clients that I just don’t mesh with because I felt I was supposed to doula a certain way.
So over the last few weeks, I really asked myself a lot of difficult questions, searching for an answer.
And suddenly, it struck me. I am an avid inhaler of information.
When I was pregnant, I was the one reading birth stories, borrowing stacks of books from the library, and buying any books that I wanted to read over and over. I had a small library worth by the time our first was born. I could not (and still cannot!) stop myself from learning more and more. Anytime I come across a new word I don’t know that might be about birth work, I google it for a quick definition. Then I look it up in my books and I learn everything I can. In our prenatal class, I was the one in the back of the class rolling her eyes and going “How can you not know this!?” at the eight month pregnant woman who didn’t know what a placenta was. (Disclaimer: As a doula, I absolutely understand that everyone chooses to approach their birth differently; as someone who deals with things by learning as much as I can however, I could not understand how you could not know this stuff!) In doula training, it was the same for the doulas-to-be who regularly stopped the class to have certain words or concepts – that were in the required reading- explained to them. What happened to, you know, actually reading the books (there were several, by the way) that were on the required reading list!?
My strength lies in information and non judgmental support. While I have my opinions on how I do things with my children, and I will share if you ask (because who doesn’t love talking about their kids?), I am not here to judge, make you see my side, or do things my way. The only perfect way for you to give birth is your way. I will give you information to find your way and then stay by your side on your journey. Think of me as your travel guide for birth.
So, on my journey to find out what kind of doula I am, I discovered that I am a bit of a nerd. I geek out learning about this amazing process and how to support women and their families through it. I am sure I have frightened a few potential clients away after getting too excited and sharing a little bit of TMI about birth at an interview. So, let’s get this out of the way now: I love birth. It is amazing, it is powerful and wonderful and miraculous. It is also a minefield of choices, options, opinions and misinformation. Wading through all the information is very difficult to do alone. If you are looking for support, are up to learning about it, what your options are and discovering what your preferences are, give me a call, and we can talk birth!