As my son approached the edge of the pool, I felt anxious. He didn’t know how to swim in deep water; he could doggy paddle really well and had mastered the “mermaid” full body style too. But he still lacked the skills and confidence to be able to swim any distance in water over his head. Swimming is an essential skill to summertime fun when you live in the sunny Okanagan, so it was about time he learned.
So, gently, I got in the pool with the deep end and swam out a short distance. He got in as well and I supported him as he started swimming around. After a couple of laps with me supporting his body, I started letting go. Easily, gently, he started swimming on his own.
As he worked this swimming thing out all by himself, he would stumble a bit, dip down and sputter. I was right there with my hand under him, pushing him back up so he could catch his breath and keep going.
It was not very long before he asked me to leave him alone so he could show off his new skills. He did it, he was swimming in deep water all by himself!
He probably would have figured it out fine on his own, and he certainly was eager to try. But, now we both know for sure that he has the skills, is safe, and perhaps most importantly, is confident in his abilities.
I see a lot of similarities with the postpartum support I provide for new families. It’s not that they can’t figure parenting out on their own. Most parents learn through being thrown in the deep end and then learning their parenting style through trial and error.
But, why not enlist some extra support if it’s available? Someone experienced in helping new families through this steep learning curve, and making sure they are confident in their abilities. A postpartum doula supports a new family in their new transition by supporting them as they learn. Because confidence makes a stronger swimmer.
If you would like extra support after baby is born, book a consultation for postpartum doula support today.